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Formula for a Happy Life

I watched a TED talk (from 2013) this evening by Sam Berns, who at the time was a 17 year old with progeria, a degenerative disease that makes him look like he’s 80 years old. He gave an inspiring recipe for a happy life:
1. Focus on what you CAN do instead of what you can’t.
2. Surround yourself with people you want to be around.
3. Keep moving forward.

He says he doesn’t ignore sadness or hard times. He accepts it, experiences it, but then looks ahead to the time when things will be better, or focuses on what CAN do right now, or embraces the people around him. He wanted to make a difference in the world by being and inventor. I believe he has passed away now, but I believe he did make difference in the world by his example.

In thinking about my previous post about “choosing happiness”, it’s evident that none of Sam’s bullets say “Choose to be Happy”. Rather, happiness comes as a byproduct of making choices that bring happiness. But, if you’ll allow me to get a little more meta, by making the choice to apply these excellently articulated choices, you in fact are “choosing” to be happy. The choice of happiness is made by choosing deliberately how you will act, instead of simply reacting.

Gaining Wealth by Serving

Listening to Dave Ramsey, he quoted an article (that I can’t remember the title of, but wish I could) that explained how some of our learning ingrained from childhood is sabotaging our ability to succeed and be wealthy. In Jewish culture, they have a very good teaching that leads to success– they view wealth as… Continue Reading

Biology

Stacey and I had our DNA tested recently. It was interesting to see that the test identified several genetic mutations that are actually known to contribute to certain personal dysfunctions we had come to recognize in ourselves, even before we were tested; namely Stacey’s inability to handle stress and my own disposition to shifts in… Continue Reading

Happiness (part 2)

Happiness Part 1 I would argue that one cannot simply choose to be happy anymore than one can simply choose to be successful. Rather, like success, it comes by the consistent ability to make choices that lend themselves to happiness. When one makes choices that are in harmony with the nature of happiness, that person… Continue Reading

Happiness (part 1)

Throughout my youth, and still today, I heard quite frequently, “happiness is a choice.” Often this was said in conjunction with, “so, choose to be happy! Stop wasting time being sad.” I’ve thought a lot about this over the years, and while I don’t think the adults trying to guide me to a happy and… Continue Reading

Moments

Life is an endless string of moments. A moment is an interesting phenomenon. Each moment includes the immediate past, present, and immediate future. The present is meaningless on it’s own. The present is the exact millisecond that is here and gone in less than a blink of an eye. The present is given meaning only… Continue Reading

Goals for 2017 – 100 words/day

I don’t believe in “resolutions.” A resolution is just a watered down goal where people tell themselves they’ll do better at something, forget about it, and then berate themselves when they realize they messed up. A goal is something you write down, set a plan for and is achievable. Not a vague “I want to… Continue Reading